I cannot disconnect myself with what is happening in my mind and what is happening personally in my life from this blog. This morning I woke up, checked out social media, witnessed a special someone creeping around town like an animal, felt like a brick hit me in the face (or the dead heart that was being slightly revived), and knew I had to write this.
Just like stupid romantic relationships that you find yourself in, wine can be a rebound and a “getting played” moment. What do these two have in common; they make you feel special for a moment, lost, empty, and really really stupid. I’m not any of the later, and I’m here to tell you that you are not as well. Let’s distinguish how we got ourselves here, and what we can do to prevent this:
My friend Jackie buys a wine because the label is pretty. This makes her feel special, intelligent, full of hope, confident that she is doing the right thing. Sound familiar? The marketing may tell you that you NEED this wine in your life, that this wine will bring you places you never have been before, your life will change if you just involve yourself a little bit…ok, that may not be the wine talking, but you understand where I am coming from. I insert a picture of 19 Crimes here; a wine I sell, I love, I love selling. This wine has everything I just spoke about, and does taste good. You get a bang for your buck, a funky label that your friends will love to talk about, and a good time. What does that sound like? Beware, but be a risk taker. Enjoy the positives that getting played may give your body and palate. It’s all just fun, isn’t it?
I don’t consider a rebound always a bad thing. It has the best intentions. If I am feeling lonely, can’t make a decision, want a consistent warm hug, Stags’ Leap Winery Petite Sirah does it for me. (the innuendos in this blog are killing me by the way). However, rebound wines will take you over the hump, but may not take you all the way. It’s easy to get stuck with the one thing you know will make you feel good when you don’t want to take that next step into the unknown. Petite Sirah may be the unknown for you as a varietal – here is the seduction. The best rebounds are in the lure of what will be, aren’t they? This one happens to deliver, and deliver. That’s why it may be my date for New Years Eve…
Where does that leave us?
Great question. Maybe it’s not drinking wine at all. Maybe it’s about making healthier choices for my body and my mind. I chose this picture above because it is filled with food and wine choices that make me feel positive and good. I just realized the wine is a little blurred out; is that a sign? It’s great to take some risks. When that risk fails though, should I stay in bed with a pint of ice cream, or go lift weights. You know the right thing to do, but the “right” thing just seems so hard…
The opening photo is a picture of a wine barrel being “toasted” and treated for wine aging. I remember taking this photo and being overwhelmed; it was a burning hot, a type of anxiety, a thrilling and tactile experience. This photo is where I want my heart, mind, and soul to stay. If I continue to get played, or be the “rebound girl”, so be it – it still makes me feel like the fire. If I make poor choices in love and wine, so be it. I rarely notice social media posts about mistakes we may make. They happen to me at every turn. Thank goodness they do – I’m learning, maybe closing myself off a bit, but still curious.